I Changed My Mind

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Today, we’re talking about changing your mind, and I’m bringing you a friendly reminder that It’s always okay to change your mind. Now, I think this is something that we can apply to all aspects of life, but certainly in parenthood and most certainly in business.

So to my doula friends- I really want you to think about that sentiment in regards to your business. 

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I don’t plan on hustling on over to 2024. I am taking the time and space to reflect on the year, and I am realizing that some strategies and some goals that I already put in motion for 2024, don’t feel aligned anymore.

After several busy months, and really a busy year in general, I’m leaning into slowing down, reimagining, and reevaluating what I want, not only next year for my business to look like but the future of my business. And that has come with changing my mind on some things.

And so I want to not only give you that reminder and peace of mind that changing your mind is okay, but I also want to give you guidance on when might feel right for you to change your mind. 

Of course, when we have something made up in our head and then realize it’s not aligned, there’s a of discomfort, so being able to move forward with what’s right for you does require a little bit of structure and a little bit of process. So I want to share what that looks like for me.  

First and foremost, when you’re setting any goals, I think it’s really important not only to dream big but also to revisit those goals constantly. Reflection and evaluation of your past experiences are really important for how you move forward.

As doulas and birth workers, we work with families all the time about tapping into their intuition to see what feels most aligned for them. And we know as birth professionals, there’s a lot of personal work that goes into that. I encourage you to practice what you preach to your clients and do those same practices regarding planning for your business and preparing for the future of your business.

So absolutely take some time to reflect and tune in: 

How is this year unfolded? 

How am I feeling about my workload and the way that I’ve been able to show up with that workload? 

Does it feel sustainable for the new year or moving forward in the future of my business? 

Evaluation and processing are a huge part of feeling good about changing your mind.

The other really big component of changing your mind is having the confidence to admit to yourself, and potentially to others, that this no longer feels aligned and I am ready to move on without this piece. Now, there is a big difference between not being able to stay with commitments that aren’t aligned and being flaky. But being honest and transparent when you are changing your mind, sometimes comes along with altering or breaking commitments you had to other people.

So how do you move forward with confidence? First and foremost, being transparent and truthful is the best way to go about navigating change, the more that we can show up authentically and communicate our desires authentically, we empower others to do the same. 

At the end of the day, we just want to serve and support this community of growing and expanding families. And I think that starts with us showing up for ourselves and others. 

So I’m encouraging you to reflect and to be really honest and confident in communicating your changes because it’s always okay to change your mind.

I plan on getting back to the drawing board to see how things are going to look for me in the new year. And to be quite honest, I don’t know what that looks like yet, but I do know that I have changed my mind about how I thought it was going to look. And while there’s a lot of uncertainty with that, there’s a lot of excitement with that.

The possibilities feel endless and I am intentionally reflecting on the past year and what feels right in the line for me moving forward into the future of my business. And, you know, you might catch me in January of 2024, and I may have reimagined yet again. That is the beauty (and sometimes feels like the curse) of running your own business, but I think it’s so important to stay true to yourself, and aligned with what feels right for you in that moment. 

And that’s how we prevent burnout as birth workers. This is big, important work, and the last thing any one of us wants for ourselves or each other is to feel burnt out. So make sure you’re taking the time to reflect, make sure you are tuning in to what feels aligned and where your energy levels are at. 

One more time here with a reminder: You can always change your mind. 

If you are in a phase where you are ready to reevaluate, set new goals, and reimagine what your business looks like, and you want some additional support or just someone who gets it, please always feel free to reach out to me.

You can always slide into my DMs on Instagram @ebbirthing, or drop me an email at ebirthing@gmail.com. We are in this together. Our goal is the same and that is to run aligned businesses where we show up big for our birth community to make our birth community a better place. So let’s work on this together.

I’m sending you so much love, so much understanding, and happy reflecting.

2023 © Erin Brier Birthing